Quit Moaning!!!

 

The Demand of Authenticity

Over a decade ago, the renowned integral philosopher Ken Wilber made his first appearance in the pages of Enlightenment Today with a passionate article titled "A Spirituality that Transforms." In its pages he delivered an evolutionary call to action that never ceases to inspire:

All of those for whom authentic transformation has deeply unseated their souls must, I believe, wrestle with the profound moral obligation to shout from the heart—perhaps quietly and gently, with tears of reluctance; perhaps with fierce fire and angry wisdom; perhaps with slow and careful analysis; perhaps by unshakable public example—but authenticity always and absolutely carries a demand and duty: you must speak out, to the best of your ability, and shake the spiritual tree, and shine your headlights into the eyes of the complacent. You must let that radical realization rumble through your veins and rattle those around you.

 

In fact it was this article that actually started my path into personal development because of the lack of authenticity within my own life, the person I had become; the one that looked back at me in the mirror was a complete stranger. Hence the beginning of my search for purpose and meaning of my life!

I had two important emails today which caused me to write, the first was from an old client

 

A young good looking , physically fit, extremely wealthy man who had just collected his brand new Mercedes Benz S-class- fully loaded (approx £80k) with his stunning Brazilian beauty of a wife! They were driving back to his penthouse in London docklands after visiting his other home in Northampton! (don’t some people just make you sick!).  What did he want to work on you ask? He said,” he was not happy, what can he do?”. Huh????

The second email was from an amazing friend of mine who sent me a timely email of an inspirational young man! Probably the most amazing five minutes you can invest!

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=2I0DRk8dFjI

So with a comedy voice, i replied to the first email- (by phone) “Quite your jibber-jabber fool and come and meet my friend pain!” ( you know the advert with Mr T). Which had him in fits of laughter! Then i told him that i was forwarding the video with a homework.

Watch this video and tell me what’s missing for you, so we can work on it!?

I just wanted to share it with you!

By the way another amazing offer from a friend of mine Vinay Parmar of Open Blue NLP training.

Event: Free NLP Weekend

       "Find out the TRUTH about NLP and discover life changing tools!"

What: Workshop

Host: OpenBlue NLP Training

Start Time: 05 December at 10:00

End Time: 06 December at 17:00

Where: Birmingham, TBC

For more information email unleashmypotential@openblue.co.uk

or call now on 0121 288 3390       

 

And remember to tell him, Deepak sent you!

As for the new DVD sets- i will be sending out the invoices, to those that asked me to save a set and posting them this week! By the way I only have four sets left- so if you want one, hurry up!

By the way I am doing a very special offer of my own this month, for a free copy on my book Emotional Mastery! So, watch out for details.

For details of the books, dvd’s and other stuff have a look at

http://www.catalyst-coaching.org/page48.htm

For a free Goals report- go to http://www.catalyst-coaching.org/page27.htm

And if you have not downloaded the new versions of the meditations

Quiet Path to success and Pearls of Zen level I go to

http://www.catalyst-coaching.org/page19.htm

Also, look out for the new events which will be online very soon! I know you will be amazed at what we have planned for the next year!

Deepak Lodhia

Professional Qualified Coach

Catalyst Coaching

 www.catalyst-coaching.org

www.deepaklodhia.com

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Developing Leaders at All Levels

Leadership isn’t just for leaders anymore.

Top companies are beginning to understand that sustaining peak performance requires a commitment to developing leaders at all levels.  Management experts Drs. Paul Hersey and Kenneth Blanchard have defined leadership as “working with and through others to achieve objectives.”

To meet the demands of today’s fast-paced and competitive business environment, people at all levels are being asked to step up and assume leadership behaviors.  As retired Harvard Business School Professor John P. Kotter explains in the Summer 2004 issue of strategy+business, this means we must “create 100 million new leaders” throughout society.

Companies are investing millions of dollars annually in leadership development training to meet this challenge.  Results are positive: Studies show companies that excel at developing leaders tend to achieve higher long-term profitability (Marc Effron and Robert Gandossy in Leading the Way: Three Truths from the Top Companies for Leaders, John Wiley & Sons, 2004).

 

 

Just yesterday I was watching a segment for Good Morning America. I watched an interview with Michael Phelps after he won his eighth Olympic Gold Medal, becoming the most decorated Olympic athlete in history.
 
Question to Phelps:

"What do you think separates the people who are merely gifted from those like you who in this instance, won?"
 
Phelps' answer:

"For me when I watch other sports, when I watch Tiger Woods, when I watch [tennis player] Roger Federer, when I watch [tennis player] Rafael Nadal, the best athletes can compete under any circumstances.  No matter what it is, no matter what the pressure, you can always overcome whatever is put in your way."
 
Notice that he didn't say "Superior conditioning", or "I worked harder than everyone else".  In fact, here's what Bob Bowman, Michael's coach said on a completely different interview:
 
"It's Michael's ability to handle anything that comes up and turn it into something good."
 
I bring up these quotes now because they're just as applicable for a small business owner in Idaho as for an Olympic swimmer in Beijing.  They're universal truths of the hyper-successful in sports, business--and in life.
 
As I sat there thinking about what Michael Phelps said.  It resonated with my own experience of being abundant in a time of hardship.
 
The difference between where you are right this moment, and achieving your wildest dreams may only be a matter of a handful of key shifts in your thinking.  I know it's true with me. 
 
My hat's off to Michael Phelps for two reasons:  First, his achievement in the pool.  Second, his reinforcement of the crucial--but seldom-followed--principle that it is your attitude when faced with challenges that makes all the difference.

 

Is this another way to train our future leaders?

 

So how can you handle anything that comes up, and turn it into something good? Its easy, learn to let go.

 

Want to know more? Look out for my new article about a new concept- the secrets of the Circle of Zen!

 

Till then

Deepak

 

Ps do check out the new online store at www.catalyst-coaching.org

BTW, the logo for Catalyst Coaching may give you the answer to the secret of the Circle of Zen, have a look, see if you can figure it out prior to the Newsletter!

 

 

Dear Friends

Hope this letter finds you well, this amazing sunny hot day! I had a great flash back about a book I read many years back when I was young! Yes, it is true I was young one time.  The flash back was to the following book! Also check out the website’s online store- with lots of new products that you can use in the comfort of your own home! Online store click here  The four agreements by don miguel ruiz's code for life agreement 1 Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. agreement 2 Don’t take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering. agreement 3 Don’t make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life. agreement 4 Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. This led me to the work of Cherie Carter-Scott's book 'If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules' is essential reading if you are interested in behaviour, relationships, communications, and human personality. Cherie Carter-Scott's rules for life - also known as 'The Ten Rules For Being Human' and referenced in her book with Jack Canfield: 'Chicken Soup For The Soul' - are a map for understanding and pursuing personal development, and for helping others to understand and develop too. 'If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules' is also commonly referenced book in the life-coaching industry. To have a look at my online store click here Here is a brief summary and explanation of Cherie Carter-Scott's 'rules of life'. Cherie Carter-Scott's rules of life (Carter Scott references this quotation:) "Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood." (Helen Keller) Rule One - You will receive a body. Whether you love it or hate it, it's yours for life, so accept it. What counts is what's inside. Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons. Life is a constant learning experience, which every day provides opportunities for you to learn more. These lessons specific to you, and learning them 'is the key to discovering and fulfilling the meaning and relevance of your own life'. Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons. Your development towards wisdom is a process of experimentation, trial and error, so it's inevitable things will not always go to plan or turn out how you'd want. Compassion is the remedy for harsh judgement of ourselves and others. Forgiveness is not only divine - it's also 'the act of erasing an emotional debt'. Behaving ethically, with integrity, and with humour - especially the ability to laugh at yourself and your own mishaps - are central to the perspective that 'mistakes' are simply lessons we must learn. Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned. Lessons repeat until learned. What manifest as problems and challenges, irritations and frustrations are more lessons - they will repeat until you see them as such and learn from them. Your own awareness and your ability to change are requisites of executing this rule. Also fundamental is the acceptance that you are not a victim of fate or circumstance - 'causality' must be acknowledged; that is to say: things happen to you because of how you are and what you do. To blame anyone or anything else for your misfortunes is an escape and a denial; you yourself are responsible for you, and what happens to you. Patience is required - change doesn't happen overnight, so give change time to happen. Rule Five - Learning does not end. While you are alive there are always lessons to be learned. Surrender to the 'rhythm of life', don't struggle against it. Commit to the process of constant learning and change - be humble enough to always acknowledge your own weaknesses, and be flexible enough to adapt from what you may be accustomed to, because rigidity will deny you the freedom of new possibilities. Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here". The other side of the hill may be greener than your own, but being there is not the key to endless happiness. Be grateful for and enjoy what you have, and where you are on your journey. Appreciate the abundance of what's good in your life, rather than measure and amass things that do not actually lead to happiness. Living in the present helps you attain peace. Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you. You love or hate something about another person according to what love or hate about yourself. Be tolerant; accept others as they are, and strive for clarity of self-awareness; strive to truly understand and have an objective perception of your own self, your thoughts and feelings. Negative experiences are opportunities to heal the wounds that you carry. Support others, and by doing so you support yourself. Where you are unable to support others it is a sign that you are not adequately attending to your own needs. Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. Take responsibility for yourself. Learn to let go when you cannot change things. Don't get angry about things - bitter memories clutter your mind. Courage resides in all of us - use it when you need to do what's right for you. We all possess a strong natural power and adventurous spirit, which you should draw on to embrace what lies ahead. Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you. Trust your instincts and your innermost feelings, whether you hear them as a little voice or a flash of inspiration. Listen to feelings as well as sounds. Look, listen, and trust. Draw on your natural inspiration. Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth. We are all born with all of these capabilities - our early experiences lead us into a physical world, away from our spiritual selves, so that we become doubtful, cynical and lacking belief and confidence. The ten Rules are not commandments, they are universal truths that apply to us all. When you lose your way, call upon them. Have faith in the strength of your spirit. Aspire to be wise - wisdom the ultimate path of your life, and it knows no limits other than those you impose on yourself. This summary is merely a brief outline and simply does not do the book justice, nor the wisdom within it. If you are interested in making the most of your life, and helping others do the same, buy Cherie Carter-Scott's book 'If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules'. BTW I receive no benefit from recommending either book other than the benefit of having more people to discuss this fascinating topic. Ok enough information, the main purpose of this is to highlight that life is a game with many rules and laws ( like the universal laws- my book!). If each one of us is different and unique as well as being perfect, we all bring a particular skill or talent to the game. You can buy Universal Laws here Experiment 1)      What Rules are you playing by? 2)      Who do they belong to? 3)      Which rules would you prefer to play by? Write them down and share them with your loved ones. 4)      What Skill or talent are you bringing to the game? 5)      How does this fit with your values? 6)      Practice, prepare for the game, then the most important part, play the game! 7)      So, what results did you get? Remember they are your rules, so you can change them! Have fun and love to all Deepak Lodhia Professional Qualified Coach Catalyst Coaching  www.catalyst-coaching.org www.deepaklodhia.com Join the BLOG here  Email: Deepak@catalyst-coaching.org However you define success, we can help you achieve it! Success means different things to different people. Whether its outperforming the competition, adapting to new challenges or having more time to yourself, Catalyst Coaching can help you achieve your goals. Success comes in CANS and Failures come in CAN'TS, let me take you from I CAN'T to I CAN. This e-mail, its content and any attachments are intended solely for the addressee(s) and are confidential. If you have received this e-mail in error you may not copy or use the contents, attachments or information in any way. Please destroy it and contact the sender via e-mail return. This e-mail has been prepared using information believed by the author to be reliable and accurate, but Catalyst Coaching makes no warranty as to accuracy or completeness. In particular Catalyst Coaching does not accept responsibility for changes made to this e-mail after it was sent. Any opinions expressed in this document are those of the author and do not necessarily reflect the opinions of Catalyst Coaching.

So what's stopping you?

 

The most powerful and challenging aspect that gets in the way of your success is YOU………

You are the only thing that stops you from BEING, DOING and HAVING anything and everything that you want in both your business and personal life. Your emotions, limiting beliefs and thoughts are the only thing that can and will ever stop you.

The well known quote from Henry Ford’s desk is very accurate………

 “Think you can, think you can’t; either way you’re right”

                          How would you like to take the ‘T’ away from CAN’T in your life?

By becoming the master of your emotions and thoughts you develop your true power to its full potential, achieving success beyond your current dreams and vision. Be in a calm and natural state at all times, taking full responsibility for your direction and results. Satisfaction and success will have substance and your true meaning will give you lasting fulfilment in every endeavour you pursue.

 

Or would you prefer to stay on autopilot, getting caught up in destructive emotions that surface when under stress, with self sabotage appearing just when you don’t need it. Living from a place where you have no control, at the mercy of others always blaming and denying; using excuses and being unaware
of your own subconscious behaviour patterns-this does not give you empowerment!

How many times have you hit that (perceived) glass ceiling without breaking through, letting it shut you down, not allowing your goals to be achieved?

Are you willing to pay the price for success or will not taking action cost you for the rest of your life?

With simple and effective guided methods, willingness with commitment to discover your own truth. Recognition and acceptance of your present position and success in every area of your life becomes easily achievable and inevitable.

Being emotionally responsible allows you to be RESPONSE-ABLE in a calm, clear, concise way at all times. You will be able to make powerful value based inspired decisions, positively affecting your business and personal life.

 

“At times our light goes out and is rekindled

by the spark of another person”

                                                                                                                                                     Albert Schwitzer

In your Business and Personal Life

Are you the very best you can be?
                                                         OR
                                                                    Is there untapped potential?

Are you living YOUR life with integrity?
                                                         OR
                                                                    That of your Father, Teachers and Peers?

Are you living your life by choice?
                                                         OR
                                                                    Blaming others for the way it is?

Do you have clarity of vision?
                                                         OR
                                                                    Are you running around in the woods?

Do your emotions empower you?
                                                         OR
                                                                    Are you a victim to them?

Do you operate daily from I can?
                                                         OR
                                                                     From B.E.D.
                                                                     Blame, Excuses & Denial
                                                                                I can't?


When you get clear vision, strong Intentions, recognise opportunity with an open mind, allowing your emotional blocks and limiting beliefs to dissolve, life takes on a whole new dimension.

COINCIDENCE   or Mathematically  CO INCIDEnce

Coincidence becomes the natural easy way of living, empowering both your business and personal life affecting all areas of health, wealth & relationships.

To coincide is to match perfectly, it is no mistake that you are reading this, maybe coincidence but something attracted you here for a reason..................................

Your task is to recognise the opportunity there might be here.

"Opportunity........The right person is always the one
                            who seizes the moment"

 

 By Mick Prestidge